Marjorie drew deeply from her girlhood spent in this colorful, deeply spiritual, sometimes old-fashioned, county-seat town.
I've visited there myself several times. I enjoyed this time-forgotten, unhurried corner of the world, utterly distinct from the faster-paced suburban towns where I grew up in California.
After her earlier career as a music teacher, my mother became a lifelong activist--primarily in civil rights and racial justice.
Marjorie was deeply offended by the racial divides she experienced as a young girl growing up in Defuniak Springs, Florida, and ultimately, everywhere else. She was a precocious child, and her sensitivity to these issues made her intolerant of even the gentlest forms of racial discrimination.
On the other hand, she cherished her hometown community's kindness and spiritual centeredness. In a time and place when people seemed, and perhaps were, naturally moral and good-natured, they were held together by a strong and unquestioned set of Protestant values.
For example, the swings were tied up on Sundays in the children's playgrounds. Out of a fear of offending the Lord on His mandatory Day of Rest!'
This was a great paradox in her life. She loved the warmth and gentility of black and white people in her corner of the American South. And yet she couldn't abide the injustice of black people taking second place to white people.
Growing up in the San Francisco suburb of Menlo Park, our house was always the hub of some social justice campaign. I was frequently enlisted in helping her in the production of endless newsletter printings and mailings promoting her various causes.
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Aerial View of DeFuniak Springs, FL. |
Often, it was a Democratic Party electoral campaign.
Sometimes, it was a more controversial effort, such as when she participated in an unpopular lawsuit demanding integrated elementary school education, even at the substantial social cost of busing white kids to predominantly black schools.
During the campaign for Jimmy Carter, she was a relentless campaigner, even flying back to her home state of Florida to try and make a difference.
Governor Carter was a Southerner who, like her and her family, lived the Gospel of Jesus Christ daily, not just on Sundays. Especially the part about 'doing unto others.'
My father, a lapsed Irish Catholic from New York City, espoused liberal views and supported her.
Even when my father retired and they moved to an upscale senior living community, she organized yearly Martin Luther King Day celebrations that came to rival the more traditional holiday fests in their production values and turnout.
Ultimately, in her later-life vocation of writing, she infused most of her work with the challenge for anyone reading it to stand up and do the right thing.
Although justice was the central concern of her life, my mother also deeply enjoyed music and other earthly delights. She and my father, both music majors in college, shared a love of jazz in particular.
She was as comfortable in her skin as anyone I've ever met. She was too busy thinking of others to care much about whether or not she was wearing the optimal outfit, for example. She set a high standard for self-sacrifice that I am ashamed to say I could not follow as much as I wanted to!
She particularly enjoyed the seaside--a profound and ongoing source of inspiration.
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The nearby and lovely Gulf Coast. |
Whenever we'd arrive at some coastal vacation spot--it didn't seem to matter where--there was a palpable sense of relief about her. Like she had finally come home after a long exile in civilization.
Her family had the good fortune to frequently spend portions of the summer at Grayton Beach, which at the time was a humble, almost dilapidated beach town with sugary-white sands of the Gulf Coast.
Even in my own era in the 1960s, the area was remote from anywhere and singularly undeveloped--in distinct contrast to the 'Redneck Riviera' reputation and traffic jams that plague it today.
In her later years, my mother suffered terribly from circulatory issues. Yet she was the model of stoic endurance.
Her sense of having a mission to complete always seemed to enable her to overlook the succession of medical indignities she endured. I counted '13' as the number of trips that she made to the hospital in her final year of life.
I miss her terribly. However, her stories are so vibrant that I've been transported back to my past and hers in reading and enjoying them.
I never met my Grandmother or Grandfather, but I did meet Aunt Bern and Uncle Stewart. (My favorite memory was those tempting bottles of Coke that tingled in the fridge whenever it was opened, and how celestially refreshing they were on hot summer days before the era of air conditioning!)
(Many writers have noted how A/C shut people up in their homes who would normally have been out on their front porches in the late afternoons, socializing with passers-by. It was a profound social change that mostly went unnoticed at the time.)
I am happy to report that De Funiak Springs is still a largely forgotten historical and geographical jewel that preserves, in microcosm, the best of genteel Southern culture, both white and black.
It boasts neither proximity to natural resources or industries and is distant from higher learning institutes. The downtown area has been struggling for many decades. The nearest hospital is a long drive away. The attractions, for young people at least, are few.
And, though generally, residents do not demonstrate the extremes, subtle vestiges of the separate racial identities remain. The city is still 90 percent white. And the controversy of whether or not to fly one or another version of the Confederate flag is still an unresolved local issue.
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The Victorian-era Themed Hotel DeFuniak. |
As of this writing, one of Marjorie's contemporaries, Francis Campbell, lives on in DeFuniak at the age of 107.
I wish her continued good health. And that also for all the fortunate people who have endured with her, in the beloved town that was such a significant influence on and solace to my mother throughout her life.
I have added some AI-generated images, which I hope enhance the stories here. I am still deciding which of the book's original images to retain.
These were often fuzzy reprints of reprints. I will add these later when my still-evolving publishing skills feel sufficient for the task.
I'd love to receive your comments, should you feel moved to share them.
Thank you, Marjorie, for being such an exemplary parent and model of modern Christian discipleship and forgiving love to all your beloved friends and family.
Thomas Malcolm Moylan, 72, San Francisco, January 2025
gonebeyondtom@gmail.com